We live in a judgmental world and if your not strong enough people's opinions will break your confidence and get in the way of you living the life you want. I’m here to share a few tips that can help you build your confidence. If you're in a dark space I’m here to remind you that you're a bad bih. So grab a cup and let's sit down and talk. 

TIPS TO HELP YOU BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE

Rule #1 - Don’t give a f**k about people's opinions especially when you have an online platform. People on the internet love to voice their opinions about any and everything. If you don't use the internet for business I'm sure you came across people in life that tried to tell you how to live or judge you for taking a different route. This is why you have to always be authentic and if people don't like it oh well they're not for you. When you try to show up in space and be something you not it's going to mentally drain you.

TIP 1: TAKE PICS 

Taking pictures will allow you to boost your confidence. The more you love on yourself and get comfortable with your body you will begin to show up that way on a daily. Taking pictures is a good way to show yourself some love. We all have some imperfections whether it's your body or different things you may not like about yourself. This is a good way to help you fall in love with those imperfections. The media doesn't make it any better because social media display unrealistic body goals that will have you second-guessing your appearance. So take photos and get comfortable with looking at yourself.

TIP 2: SWITCH UP YOUR STYLE 

Sometimes you have to switch up your style and try new things. Our confidence plays a big role in what we wear and how we present ourselves to the world. Are you comfortable with your clothes? Do the clothes you wear represent who you are? These are some questions you can ask yourself when you start to lack confidence. You ever put on an outfit and be like "damnnnnnnn I look good." Think about the time you celebrated your birthday, a friend's birthday, or went on vacation, etc. The times where you feel your best that's when you dig deep to recreate those memories. To be honest I have my days where I don't feel my best but I try my hardest to push myself to feel pretty. So if I'm lounging around the house and I feel down I will get up, do my hair, makeup and get dress and do something that makes me happy. I don't ever want to depend on other people to make me feel whole. So building confidence within is always my main priority. 

TIP 3: SPEAK POSITIVE THOUGHTS TO YOURSELF

When we lack confidence we can begin to surround our words with negativity. We may complain about the smallest things and never see the good. It can feel like the world is out to get us. Most of all we are our biggest critics. I know it can be hard but we have to remember to speak positive thoughts to ourselves and have faith. When your confident everything else in your world will begin to show up that way. You will handle situations differently and will show up ready to receive everything you're worth. 

Tip 4: WALK WITH YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH AND POSTURE STRONG AND FIRM

I use to walk with my back hunched over as if I couldn't stand tall. That was a big sign of insecurity for me. I didn't have back problems I was able to stand straight but I lacked so much confidence I started hiding from the world. My mother would yell at me all the time “stop hunching over before you be old and can't walk” I didn't understand that my lack of confidence was displayed in my posture. When you walk and stand tall people will know you mean business. You will feel good and comfortable in the spaces you enter. If you have a job interview you will walk out of there knowing you got the job.

I came along way with my confidence here is my story. I was very judgmental because I wasn't completely secure within. It took a lot for me to get here because I never really had anyone push me to live for me. To be honest having an online platform pushed me to work on my confidence. If I can do it so can you. Remember small-minded people live in a world where they don't see anything outside of their perception. People will always have opinions but don't let that dictate how you show up for yourself and your dreams. You deserve to love on yourself so if your lacking confidence this is the time to gain it back.